I live in SF. There are advantages and disadvantages to that. One thing I learned after FFS is that, despite my size, I pass pretty consistently when I travel. The same is not true in SF, where us trans folk are such a common sight that pretty much anyone can pick us out of crowd.
It drives home how much passing is really a proxy for safety: I don’t mind being clocked in SF, because I know it’s not likely to end in an assault. The same can’t be said when I’m bouncing around my hometown, where I feel safest when I’m unnoticable.
#visbilityinallitsvariations #passing