@ics @Impossible_PhD @woozle these are all the reasons why I generally don’t hang out in queer spaces.
I love that the queer umbrella is wide, but gosh being at the edge of the umbrella feels a lot like being _other_. Stack on the often aggressive sexuality of it all, and I’d usually rather be the oddity at the cis bar.
@woozle @nicole @ics @Impossible_PhD
Yeah, I am nonbinary, neurodivergent, 77 years old, and I don't drink alcohol. So bars are not my favorite places to hang out-- especially the crowded queer ones where some inebriated people feel they have permission to invade your personal space without asking.
@cherylgk @nicole @ics @Impossible_PhD
I don't drink alcohol either ^.^. I like the taste of wine/burgundy (parents tend to offer it) but it always tended to make me depressed, so I never could enjoy it.
@nicole @ics @Impossible_PhD
Being neurodivergent (on top of the gender dysphoria for most of my life), I've never felt comfortable in bars and that kind of social space, so never even tried to hang out there. (This was a bit of a hindrance when trying to get into the music scene -- all the local musicians met each other whilst hanging out in bars, it sounded like...)
I've also never done dating (as it existed in the 1980s or so, anyway) because I couldn't see the point; I wanted friendship first, and anything more intimate (cuddling, generally, but also emotional intimacy/trust) would develop from that.